Season 3 Trailer: Setting the Record Straight

Hey friends, rebecca here, your favorite widow and welcome to season 3 of Love is Not Dead, just my husband. I cannot believe we've made it this far, and when I say we, i do need you, because I definitely wouldn't be here if it wasn't for you. I only hoped that I would find a few widows with the same mindset of moving forward, rediscovering themselves and ready to find a new, happily ever after. I mean, who knew I would find a whole tribe of widows looking for the exact same thing? And for the longest I felt like I didn't deserve the title of widow because I didn't feel like I was sad enough or not talking about Tom enough, or not showing grief enough, moving forward too quickly, you know, by whomever's definition. But the thing is about being a widow. It's about you and not the person that you love. There are a lot of misconceptions about widows how we should act, what we should say and what we should do with our lives. Opinions are like assholes and everybody has one, and if you are sharing your opinion with a widow about what you think they should do and you are not a widow, please keep that opinion to yourself. And if you are a widow or someone who has experienced a loss. You should know that everyone grieves differently. I hate that I even have to say this, but be kind. Everyone's marriages, personalities, situations and life experiences and how quickly they decide to move forward will be different. The point is, everyone is different. This is exactly why there is no right or wrong way to widow, and you don't need permission to widow your way, and if, for some reason, you do, i am officially giving you permission to do just that Widow your own damn way. So this season we're going to set the record straight. I want to talk about these widow stereotypes, facts and myths, and why widows do the things that we do, the stages of grief and maybe even a few things that widows want to say but don't, and that means that I also want to hear from you. I've already got a whole list of topics that widows have asked me to discuss or just bring to light because they want other people to know, and I don't mind, because I know that it's not just widows listening to this podcast. So tell me, is there something that you want to say to the world, or just someone in general? Have you been looking for a platform to share it, or maybe you just need a little courage to speak your mind. Tell me, i'll say it for you. Have you desperately been looking for a widow's handbook that doesn't exist. This is where you're going to learn to make your own. I used to hate being a widow. I felt like there was some kind of stigma to it. I felt that all widows were old people and I couldn't relate. I myself stereotyped widows. I've even shared a story before about having breakfast early one morning with my best friend, angie at a Bojangles. I started staring at all the old men that were at tables by themselves eating alone, and I just assumed they were widows. So I started crying and I told my best friend that I didn't want that to be me one day, that I didn't want to be old and alone eating breakfast by myself. They may not have even been widows. Grief should not come with discrimination, from the outside looking in, but also from other people who are grieving. People compare their grief all the time Grief for a parent, sibling, a friend, a child, a pet to a widow. And let me be clear I'm not saying that being a widow is the ultimate level of grief. I think all losses are the same. The only difference is how we grieve them. I find that the loss of my brother, donnie, has been way harder than the loss of my husband, tom, and I get some really funny looks from widows when I say that. And with that being said, why do I see so much judgment from widow to widow? How do we get around this? How do we stop that from happening? Why do we judge how other people grieve? Now, i've been guilty of that myself and I'm not proud of it, but that was way before. I've experienced so much loss and had a grief journey of my own, so I can understand it a little bit better. We're all hurting, we're all in pain and we're all suffering through grief, and so, instead of passing judgment on who grieved it best, let's be there for each other, to console and support each other, because we're all just trying to move forward And, after all, love is not dead apps against our husbands.