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Well, I believe the title of this episode says it all.
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So this is my soapbox and I'm just going to sit here for a while.
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So let me go ahead and repeat that for you, this widowhood journey is about you and not your dead husband.
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Yes, we want to love, honor and cherish them forever, and you will.
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But it is not the sole purpose of a widow.
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No matter what meme you read or whatever anyone says, how much you grieve, someone does not determine how much you love them, and being a widow does not define you.
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Being a widow is hard on you.
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You are the one that is still alive.
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You are the one that has to figure out what you're going to do with the rest of your life, not anyone else, and definitely not your dead husband.
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He is gone now, living his best afterlife.
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So at any moment in your husband's lifetime did he say to you when I'm gone, I want you to be miserable.
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I never want you to find love again.
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I want your happiness to die with me.
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No, so don't.
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And if it's easy for you to think of your husband happy and free in heaven, why is it not easy for you to think that he would want you to be happy that he would want you to be happy.
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I want you to stop looking at grief and widowhood as something that has to be sad and lonely.
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Yes, it will be.
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In the beginning it's going to suck and it's going to feel like your whole world is over.
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I know because I have been there.
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But it's not, and the truth is that is completely up to you.
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You know I love that saying do you merely want to survive or do you want to thrive?
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But I want to take it just one step further and I want to ask you do you want to live?
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And I don't mean just being alive, I mean actually living, living a life with purpose and happiness.
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I mean actually living, living a life with purpose and happiness.
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It doesn't have to be some major purpose in life, but just living a life that is meant for just you, and being happy doing that, to do this.
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I want you to start happy doing that, to do this.
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I want you to start thinking of grief in a more positive way Because remember, widow, your Way is a mindset.
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I want you to find something to look forward to, find something that you've been wanting to do for yourself, and just do it.
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Being a widow is just part of your life and it doesn't define the rest of it.
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Now, after you listen to this episode, I want you to send me a DM it could be on Instagram, facebook, or you can even email me at widowyourwayatgmailcom and I want you to tell me what are you going to do with the, because, after all, love is not dead, just your husband.
